With the same set of parents, you might think that every child born will be exactly the same; however, that is not true. Even though the genes and upbringing are the same, every child is bound to be different. Why? Does birth order affect a child?

Yes, it does. Every individual in a sibling group differs in terms of personality, intellect, and overall success from one another. Let’s see what Kevin Leman’s (psychologist) take is on this.

Difference of Personalities According to birth number – Firstborn, middle and lastborn

According to Kevin, children take up roles as soon as they are born. Under usual circumstances, the firstborns are high achievers of the family and may have innate leadership skills in them, which drives them toward the title of being bossy.

On the other hand, the last born is mostly the attention grabber of the set. They have unique ways of getting what they want in the way they want. Youngest are usually gifted with wit and are often the comedians everyone wants to be around.

However, let’s not forget the middle child! Although it is a common phenomenon that middle children tend to have sober personalities. They are thought of as neglected ones from the entire set. But, they turn out to be well-adjusted people in the future.

The firstborns get the most attention; they are given time and are often a gifted child. At the same time, the second-borns are reaped off the privilege of being the youngest at a very tender age. The reason why they do not have a definite role is unknown, but they turn out to be excellent mediators as grownups.

Treating Children Uniquely Instead of Fairly

Your children need your undivided attention no matter what order they belong to. You cannot pass on your responsibilities. Let’s take the example of the second child. It is common for working moms to ask their firstborns to look after the baby while they cook.

You must understand that this practice, although understandable, is not right for either of your children. The baby should receive love, attention, and care as much as the first child did.

Every child is unique; no 2 children are alike in terms of physicality, emotional needs, social capabilities, and intellect. Since they are unique, their demands or needs are too. As a parent and teacher, their uniqueness and individuality must be respected.

The benefits of treating children as unique individuals at Rainard

  • We help develop personalities, talents, and abilities as individuals regardless of family background or learning difficulties/disabilities, etc. This helps them understand and support each other to become an empath.
  • By making them take responsibility for their own action, we instill a sense of independence that many seek.
  • No matter what their order is or where they belong, professionals at Rainard treat them as equals in every aspect. We return honest and caring children that make good choices.

By treating every child as a unique individual, Rainard provides an environment that positively influences all areas of children’s development. From physical to social /emotional and cognitive needs.